tbh when my mum died last year i didnt want to talk to any1 except Billy and my brother Mark ... I made them field fonecalls and visitors for me cos i couldn't speak to any1 without crying and making them feel bad for making me that way... I couldnt even face getting cards and flowers that people were sending me as it just made me have to face up to the fact of what had happened... I had a house like a flowershop at one point !! ... I know people were being kind but every1 handles grief differently and i handled it very badly... Even now almost a year and a half on I get so upset if i meet someone that new my mum and they mention her and the awful thing that happened to her at the hands of that evil person comes flooding back I still bawl my eyes out ...
Its a hard thing to deal with someone who has lost someone ... i think you have to judge it very carefully and try and put yourself in their position... I was lucky i had 2 people looking out for me to spare me more upset..
I really dunno if that answers ur question tho hun I'm sorry xxx I'm away to cry now xx
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