i think u have had a lucky escape hun !!!! shame the fecker waited until u were married before he did all this cos stuff like this usually has been going on in sum1's head for a while..
Get urself sorted and move on, if u let him back like u did before it will just happen again ..
Oh, and dont change who u are for anybody, people need to love you for who and what you are not for what they want u to be !!