Thanks for that, I know its not just ladies that do it. Just that we were together for four years, we work in same place, although its a big company and i only see her when smoking breaks. We have a lot of mutual friends who she isnt talking to. or if she is then they are not telling me. She didnt do it alone, she had help and support from someone. Maybe her parents or a mutual friend. Anyway shes now ****ging various blokes from some website she has joined. like a same interest website. she left her laptop for me to borrow and when i switched it on, it automatically opned a chat box and her contact list. She was under a different name but her pic was on there. She left me crying her eyes out cos she had hurt me and 3 weeks later was posting various guys naaaked pics of her. she trashed my memory of her and any respect i had for her. She left saying she wanted to be single and had been missing out, then she's online ****ging and now meeting them to **** in real life. My question is what made her change, she is a different person now then when she left me. How does a woman change so quickly or was it preplanned and cold/calculating? will she now be laughing at me and how destroyed i am. please if there any ladies out there please do help me with this one.