Thanks for that reply. I cant hurt her, i dont hate her i pity her. As someone explained shes on a downward spiral. She left the security and a loving home to be single. Now shes got involved in this i dont want to know. As long as she doesnt get hurt then its up to her. Her parents problem now not mine. If i see her at work just have to smile and look away. If she could be honest at least i could deal with it quickly, she isnt even giving me that. Glad in a way that she did it now not after another 4 years. anyway thanks for responding,