Thanks for that sultry, its not that easy for me to do that. I am a shy quiet person. She was my best friend and i feel desperately sorry for her that she couldnt really tell me how she felt. She has started on a bad road and no-one can help her. She isnt talking to any mutual friends or at least they are not telling me. She had to trust this person or persons a bit before she went. She wouldnt have left without having a support network or someone saying she was gonna be okay. I have asked her whether she was cheating but she wont admit it. She keeps turning it aound on me. Do women do this as a way of hiding what they have done? No honesty and the lies i cant deal with. dunno ??????