Thanks for that, i realise most people wouldnt admit to it, just that when u live with someone for 3 years, and they turn in to someone you dont recognise, its hard to accept. She was with me when she was planning it all. She used me for the security and comfort a loving home would bring till she was sure that the next bloke was ready. then she started lying and undermining me. Must have been for at least two months before she left me. Using me and confiding in the next bloke who she met on the internet. Wondered why the sudden interest in getting an iphone and suddenly going away to amsterdam even though she wouldnt get ona plane for two years. Said i had no prospects and all the while she was flirting and confiding in someone else. Oh well, she is gonna regret leaving me, not now but when she gets hurt by the next bloke. Possible it will dawn on her how badly she treated me. Anyway im free and single now so watch out world here i come.