thanks shazzababie, the cross dressing was kept a secret till we were marrid for 1 yr so i have known bout it. the sending of txts, photos & video to all & sundry is not so good, anyone could get hold of them as i found some photos on the web. trust should go both ways, i trusted him with the dressing & he has betrayed that trust.I have made contact with one of his "friends" and am going to wait & see how this goes.