[QUOTE=snowflake33;42808]Ive not got children... but would love them...

How do u teach them right from wrong ?

do they listen when u tell them something is wrong ?[/QUOTE]

Kids are great mimics, and not just in what you say, so you usually find (and I know from my nieces and nephew) that if I have something, or do something, they often want to copy if it's interesting enough. Then you can show them how to do, for example, tying their laces, or drawing with a pen, or washing their hands, cleaning up messes.

They do understand what no means, and from an early age it's simple enough to gently encourage them physically to play with something else or take away that glass they found in the kitchen that you don't want them to break. Sure, they sometimes have tantrums, but if you get them to play with something else then it's forgotten. It's also nice to reward them or praise them when they get things right, or they are nice (say please, or thank you, or give hugs, or share things, or listen to what you tell them to do.).

When they keep doing something wrong, it's best to explain why not- even my 2 and a half year old understands things *breaking* or *sore* or *hot*, and if you can mime it (like, pretending you put your finger to a flame but then act like it's been burnt and say ouch or sore, they get the idea). Maybe that sounds silly, but it works with my little niece.

My 5 year old nephew doesn't listen most of the time, but I find that he gets told off the least- as if he's some kind of favourite with the rest of the family- so I am usually more firm when I tell him not to do something. He also does what he likes, like jumping about, hitting folk, not listening and nagging- man he nags so much!!!-so he often annoys his older sister- which gets her in trouble for arguing with him about it, and he doesn't share with my little niece- and also likes to try and take things off her too. She is expected by the rest of the family to already know how to share, even tho she's an only child. I fear that he'll never get the sort of discipline the girls will get, and will be a spoilt brat.

p.s. no I'm not from some country that hugely favours men over women(at least, not as much as say Asian countries). I'm from Scotland, fyi.

When he's older, I might teach him how to hover, use the washing machine, fill up the dishwasher, and cook.