need some serious advice

Here's a mad one which makes my last post look like ****!

I've been in a relationship for 12 years, since I was 18, my one and only love. But 8 months ago a girl joined our company and I was to train her and sit next to her. Not kidding, but the day I fell for her, seriously fell for her, she told me she was getting married in 3 weeks. So now she's married, I'm sitting next to her 8 hrs, 5 days a week having the fun we always had, I mean we get an so amazingly, its great, but I'm still loving my g/f so much and can I just say...cracking up. I hate her bloke because he's an idiot. But I love my girlfriend, because if there is anyone in this world who knows me it's her.

I feel like I'm torn here and I could do with some female advice please!

she's newly married... you're 'happily' married to a woman you love... don't even think about it - get a grip lol

[QUOTE=Bakerboo;36916]she's newly married... you're 'happily' married to a woman you love... don't even think about it - get a grip lol [/QUOTE]

im with bakerboo here, you think ur happy with your long term girlfriend and she is married. you will ruin at least two people if not four if you dont catch yourself on

i no im not a woman but i agree dont go there at all..u will loose so much if u say sum thing..ok we cant help who we fall for but this is where ya brain has to think sensibly..u cud say sumthing an loose every thing an ruin so many lifes..so i say jus have a laff as u av bin an tell yaself im not gonna say anything i dont want to ruin any1s life..its not the kind of person i am..not gonna be easy but its the only correct option u have..and in time it will get better an u will think god glad i didnt say or do anything..

Thanks for the advice everyone. You're all correct as well. I should kop on to myself and just get on with it. It's just difficult getting from day to day having to see her constantly.

yeah enjoy the friendship only - why risk something that might not work if you took it too the next stage. Seems u/her are both happy in ur relationships

don't let your little head do the thinking.

u want fun, do some role play with your girlfriend. you kill two birds with one stone: you get to please your baby, and you get to mess with a "new" woman.

if that doesn't work, rent a ****o and cheat on her with your hand.

by the sound of it, if nothing's broken, why try to fix it with the tool below your belt?

just food for thought, my friend.

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[snowflake33]

dont go there, she must love this guy to have married him ! maybe she will be a friend for life.. someone u care about, but if u did get together that will hurt alot of ppl that u both care about and it cud end up ruining ur friendship...

[pete8242]

you get on so great with her because your just freinds
dont ruin the frendship with her by adding *** into your freindship
dont make the mistake i did
i used to see this girl at the asda all the time and we would laugh and joke like we knew each other all our lives
then one day as i was scanning my lager through her till
i took it one stage further and flashed her
it didnt go down well at all
she fainted and before i could get her trousers off security had dragged me off and thrown me out the shop

Thank you everyone. You have all helped so much. I need some common sense. Just sitting next to her 8 hrs a day, 5 days a week, it takes alot out of me and I'm not sure what I have left. But you have helped me. Thank you