Why does ...

My fear of losing someone always lead to that exact thing?

[QUOTE=MattBrad;41034]My fear of losing someone always lead to that exact thing?[/QUOTE]

All depends on how often it happens I guess. If it happens on a regular basis , then it can't be coincidence.
A difficult one to try and answer !!!!!!!!!!!!

Well maybe its the way you come across, there is nothing more unattractive than neediness. It drives me mad, and this can come across as jealously, over enthusiasm, well in loads of ways actually. You just have to have the confidence in yourself so that being single isnt such a daunting idea. Ive been single for 2 years and I love it, if youve always been in relationships I can see how it may be scary but maybe you need some time on your own to get used to being with you again.
Hope that drivel helped xx

Because it is possible to try too hard. Because you fear losing them, you try harder and harder, and in essence push them away. And then the relationship implodes!

My view is que sera sera - whatever will be, will be!

[badbluey]

From the words of a song;

"Don't push it, don't force it, let it happen naturally"

[snowflake33]

if u trying too hard .... not to lose someone ...

maybe ur not been urself ... just be u and go with the flow....
wat ever is gunna happen will happen ...

Self sabotage maybe?? Maybe your so afraid of getting hurt that you subconsciously sabotage your relationships so that when you do get hurt, you can say "see, I told you this would happen". OR when things are going well, you sabotage so that you can leave the relationship first so that you dont get hurt first, you push the other person away before they have the chance to hurt you.
OR you are so worried about someone hurting you that you let them walk all over you in the relationship because you dont want to give them a reason to leave, but this ends up with you getting hurt regardless.
Know what you want out of a relationship and don't compromise. If you let yourself be taken advantage of in a relationship you will always get hurt. Don't settle for less than you're worth

[sultry]

totally agree...self sabotage..i know its hard but ur best to just go with the flow and dont smoother people...what will be will be

try not to look at relationships as the same. what you are doing is thinking the worst and making it all come about. mind over matter. try not to force un happiness take each day as it comes
things will wrk out i knw how your thinking im the same hun. been broke up with x 2an half yrs
trying to find new love very hard. allways think there to nice. if i get called babe i think funny things lol
but chin up you will meet sme1 and you will click xx
stay safe xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[sukisue]

cus ya feelin negative try an be positive an dont try too hard an then ya might not lose watever ya losin lol