cheating girlfriend

Thanks for that reply. I cant hurt her, i dont hate her i pity her. As someone explained shes on a downward spiral. She left the security and a loving home to be single. Now shes got involved in this i dont want to know. As long as she doesnt get hurt then its up to her. Her parents problem now not mine. If i see her at work just have to smile and look away. If she could be honest at least i could deal with it quickly, she isnt even giving me that. Glad in a way that she did it now not after another 4 years. anyway thanks for responding,

[sultry]

[SIZE="3"][COLOR="DarkRed"][FONT="Arial Black"]i really would just let her get on with it.....ur gonna make urself ill over this...i know it is hard but u got to move on...put it down to a bad experiance and get on with it...she aint worth distroying the next year of ur life, u ll never get the answers u want...doesnt matter if i explained it to u cause u obviously need her to explain her own actions...just get up on get on with things...believe me u ll hurt her more by not moping around...[/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE]

[Lazy]

let your girlfriend get on with it like sultry says i know its hard but u need to move on other wise you will be feeling bad for a long time.

Thanks for the replies, am genuinely relieved that someone has replied. Just to continue, although am now just angry with her. She went on the pill a full month before we split, she didnt like the pill cos it messed with moods and we wernt having *** so whats does that point to. Met her today at the house we shared not by design. i went to check the house and collect post, she was going there to clear her stuff out. Asked her bout the trips abroad seeing as i couldnt get her on a plane beforehand. I asked why she was on the pill whewn we werent hving *** and she said how did i know. She left the box in her bedroom bin which as i emptied it out saw the box. im not stupid and she knows i know now that she was cheating. After our four year relationship ended she is now with someone else she met on a website. she said the pill is a mini-pill so she wouldnt have felt much different. I guess im asking again, are women this cold and calculating, is this the norm for young ladies these day? any practical tips on how to get this out of my system, i cant seem to move on and am stuck in a rut. can anyone help me or is this it for me. i didnt do anything wrong and yet am the one shafted while she has moved on

and i know her so well, she would have had to build up trust and get to know this person, so this was all done beforehand and whilst she was with me. anyone help me here please?

[sultry]

u just have to get up and get back out there...start having fun again and i promise u ll soon stop thinking about her as much .....no one can fix this for u, u have to do it urself...good luck x

Thanks for that sultry, its not that easy for me to do that. I am a shy quiet person. She was my best friend and i feel desperately sorry for her that she couldnt really tell me how she felt. She has started on a bad road and no-one can help her. She isnt talking to any mutual friends or at least they are not telling me. She had to trust this person or persons a bit before she went. She wouldnt have left without having a support network or someone saying she was gonna be okay. I have asked her whether she was cheating but she wont admit it. She keeps turning it aound on me. Do women do this as a way of hiding what they have done? No honesty and the lies i cant deal with. dunno ??????

[Lazy]

most woman wont admit to cheating but neither would men if they have been caught cheating and always try the best to get out of it.
Just forget about her and move on i know its easily said than done.

Thanks for that, i realise most people wouldnt admit to it, just that when u live with someone for 3 years, and they turn in to someone you dont recognise, its hard to accept. She was with me when she was planning it all. She used me for the security and comfort a loving home would bring till she was sure that the next bloke was ready. then she started lying and undermining me. Must have been for at least two months before she left me. Using me and confiding in the next bloke who she met on the internet. Wondered why the sudden interest in getting an iphone and suddenly going away to amsterdam even though she wouldnt get ona plane for two years. Said i had no prospects and all the while she was flirting and confiding in someone else. Oh well, she is gonna regret leaving me, not now but when she gets hurt by the next bloke. Possible it will dawn on her how badly she treated me. Anyway im free and single now so watch out world here i come.

[sultry]

[QUOTE=picasso;53410]Thanks for that, i realise most people wouldnt admit to it, just that when u live with someone for 3 years, and they turn in to someone you dont recognise, its hard to accept. She was with me when she was planning it all. She used me for the security and comfort a loving home would bring till she was sure that the next bloke was ready. then she started lying and undermining me. Must have been for at least two months before she left me. Using me and confiding in the next bloke who she met on the internet. Wondered why the sudden interest in getting an iphone and suddenly going away to amsterdam even though she wouldnt get ona plane for two years. Said i had no prospects and all the while she was flirting and confiding in someone else. Oh well, she is gonna regret leaving me, not now but when she gets hurt by the next bloke. Possible it will dawn on her how badly she treated me. Anyway im free and single now so watch out world here i come. [/QUOTE]

yeahhhh thats a better route of thinking....remember to put on ur lucky pants!! lol