just mates

[tommysize1]

im friends with a girl ive known for like 9years.(i knew her when we was 16-19 now again at 23-25)
she's a really down to earth girl who isnt afraid of confrontation, which is what ive always liked about her.
but she just got dumped by my mate which has really broken her heart.
i kinda want to hang out with her more often and let her know that she can still hang out with the rest of us even though she still aint seein my mate.
it just feels weird going about it though....
im happy just to be friends and have never even really considered her as someone id go out with.
although i wouldn't say no.
i just dont know what to do really.
i want to be nice and help her out but im just scared that if i did invite her out somewhere shed think it was a date.
i mean, how else could you look at it?
it would be a date!
i dont know. i like her. i want to spend more time with her.
im not even thinking of ***.
but i know everyone else would be.
and she would be too probably.
so i feel stuck.
would she think i just see her as an easy target?
would i be taking advantage of her?
lol
if anything she'd take advantage of me!
but i dunno it feels wrong as shes still broken up about my mate.
i like her, she likes me.
just not in that way.
im sure weve both thought about it but its different actually going through with it.
especially when weve just been mates for so long.
basically what do you people think?
should i ask her out on a "date"
or should i invite her to come hang out with me and all of "our" mates?
or what?

[Forger]

Just hang out as mates first.
Years ago i had a mate who died in bike accident, i wanted to do the same for his girlfriend, just hang out and make sure she was ok. For a long while we hung out together within a group of mates until she suggested we go somewhere together just the two of us. If someone is upset or grieving the last thing they want is being pushed into something they are not ready for.

Well if you don't fancy her, why would you ask her out on a date.. that just stringing her along... which is bad.....

I am sure you can hang out with her just as a mate, or do you think you wont be able to handle yourself around.... if you think she will think it as a date then you could be right or that what you wish she will think it is...

It never good to get involve with your mates EX's

Reading between the lines you fancy her like mad, so you better ask her out on a date before someone else does.

The only way people know if they really fancy each other and are compatible is to spend some time on their own together.

Don't miss out and spend the rest of your life wishing you had asked her out. If it doesn't work out after the date well both of you haven't lost anything and at least you'll know.

A word of caution, be aware of the rebound factor.

[tommysize1]

lol.
im goin with Forgers idea i think.
and yeah routeplanner she is super hot.

but i prefer brunettes

Blondes, Brunettes makes no difference to me, as long as the curtains match the carpets lol