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11-05-12, 08:25 PM
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just thinking about my love life
im finding it hard to get my girlfriend to open up to me.
she says she was hurt badly in her last relationship, i heard the guy cheated on her. i told her ive never felt really close to anyone, im not sure she believes me. cos im rather dashing  yeah its just its been 3 months now. i want to feel closer to her but its like she wont let me. when were together everything is fine. but trying to see her again is always hard work...like she's not interested. so i sent a few texts and tried to call over the space of a week and she just ignored me! so i thought ok. she obviously doesnt want hear from me. so i sent a message basically saying "goodbye. its been a cold and confusing experience" she replied to that! she said she hadn't replied cos she was ill. lame excuse i thought. i said if she wants to carry on seeing me shes gotta make more effort to talk to me and stuff. u know! let me know that she actually gives a ****! she said he woud try to be better. i bought her some flowers and a card the next day saying "sorry for being a jerk" which she seemed happy about. so i gave her the chance to tell me to **** off! but she seems to still want me. ive made it clear that i want more. but she seems scared of letting herself go. (ive already slept with her & stuff but i want MORE! i just....i dunno. i hate being human sometimes!) 
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12-05-12, 07:43 AM
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thats a tuffie...
maybe she is scared of being hurt again but that is her problem to get over .... surely after a few months she can see ur a decent guy ??? I am a woman ( well i think i am ) and i know we can be pains in the arses but sometimes its a defense mechanism....hold on in there if you like her Tommy but if you cant see a future theres no point banging ur head of a brick wall and move on .... us women were put on earth to confuse you men ...lol ... u need to buy a handbook !!!! good luck
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16-05-12, 10:43 PM
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Just a suggestion here, in my experience girls like romance, so you need to be doing things together that brings you together emotionally. So do simple things like suggest going for a long walk together somewhere nice, you will find that walking is a good way to get to know someone, because you can't help but talk to each other as you are walking along. I have never taken a girl out for a walk, who hasn't wanted to talk about herself and our relationship, and have fun as well. Doing fun things together is important such as, going to the cinema, going clubbing, going to a restaurant and anything else that gets you both involved with each other. Also switch off your mobile phones when you are together, as they can distract you from just being together on your own, I speak from experience here, it's a case of do you love me, or my mobile phone?
Last edited by Gothic42; 17-05-12 at 07:42 AM.
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17-05-12, 05:37 PM
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yeah she's hard work but im trying to stay in a positive frame of mind.
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17-05-12, 05:39 PM
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Look at it this way at least she's still giving you the time of day to be with you. If she wasn't willing to try it again and give love or whatever yall are doing another chance she would have left you and cut you off completely. Just show her your going to be there and that youre not like the past people in her life. Prove to her youre worthy enough to be in her life.
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17-05-12, 05:46 PM
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i think that is a perfect summary darkangel
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18-05-12, 07:38 AM
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It's time for tough love! If you want to know if your relationship has any currency then perhaps you should play cool for a bit. That doesn't mean you have to ignore her but make her do some of the running. Don't feel that you have to apologise for your good intentions/actions just because they don't appear to be appreciated. Life is too short to keep banging your head against a brick wall. Relationships are a two way street. If there isn't a sense of mutual support then is it a relationship or just an infatuation?
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19-05-12, 07:20 AM
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final nail in the coffin last night methinks!
she came out with me and some friends, everything was good. then near the end of the night she just left without saying anything! my mates told me i should tell her to **** off now. i tend to agree. i want an explanation tho as she's totally ****ed with my head! unreal
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