Is text *** cheating? - want a male opinion plse.

#1 (**permalink**) 13-01-09, 10:18 PM

Right sitting comfortably? lol...

Have been having some very hot text *** with a guy for quite a while - he lives with his g/f btw.

I knew the guy b4 hand , I instigated the hottest text messages known to man and he loved it & joined in. sometimes we were sending 40+ messages a day. I am a little bit older than him, but all my previous b/f's have been @ least 10 yrs older than he - lets just say I blew his mind a little as I have a very active imagination and also more experienced.

Eventually we ended up kissing full on - this continued for a few more weeks. We finally got naked with each other and couldn't perform!!! It was cut short due to me needing to be somewhere else.

We had a repeat performance the following week, less nervous but once again not up to full speed [if u know what I mean

] Also didn't last more than minutes. But was lovely nevertheless..

Since then we have had the most amazing text ***, both participating.. He wanted to come round but I declined, but it was VERY hot even though we weren't in the same room.

He tells me that him and his g/f don't do it anymore, I know he is physically attracted to me, I make him laugh as not only am I pretty am also funny and clever [not big headed!]. I know he wants to see me again, he tells me to call him - but I don't want to be the one running! Sometimes he will completely ignore my texts and other times he's bang on it..

Guys please help, what is going on? What do u make of the behaviour... x

shazzababie · #2 (**permalink**) 14-01-09, 06:57 AM

I aint a bloke but heres my opinion ....

i think its classed as cheating and tbh the rest of it i.e. getting naked is deffo cheating...

i think he is infatuated with the idea of a partner like you but when the *** aint that gd or doesnt last then i reckon its because he is intimidated by you.

I dont mean that in a bad way i just mean you are obviously way more experienced than him in the bedroom dept and he is obviously scared of living up to your expectations and cannot perform...

I think he is infatuated with you and the idea of the mind blowing *** you are suggesting in the texts but i dont see much coming of it hun sorry

I would leave him with his girlfriend and get urself a bloke who can live up to ur expectations in that dept

But text *** is still cheating in my book

queen swords · #3 (**permalink**) 14-01-09, 08:11 AM

i agree with shazz, anyform of *** with someone elses patner is cheating. if i thought for 1 second my partner was doing *** texts , he would be one sorry man wondering around out side hopeing the *** text cheater would take him on. and as for this person you say he is spot on with some of ure texts but not with other texts, well maybe the other times he *** texting someone else. maybe he got lots of other people to *** chat to. do you really think that ure that special , he only *** texts you. no offence but try getting a bloke in da real world hun.

badbluey · #4 (**permalink**) 14-01-09, 08:11 AM

Well,well,well

You have asked two seperate questions here and it isn't just txt.
Firstly to cheat on someone (***ually) there has to be physical contact between the two, no matter what the moral issues might be about the txt'ing, without physical contact it's not cheating.

But!!!!!!! it's a little bit more than just that as you have already entered the realms of "cheating".
Here's a new concept.......................ask him !!!
i am sure you already know the moral issues with what you are doing and have chosen to ignore them so why get all shy and coy now.
You seem to both be playing games with each other, when you do that it's never gonna be great, especially when you have to leave in the middle of it. So why not ask him what he wants, even better than that get your own head straight first so you don't send out mixed messages.

#5 (**permalink**) 14-01-09, 10:16 AM

Thanks for the non judgemental advise guys! It's been doing my head in for ages. I think it is right that he's intimidated by me, although I am just as worried about living up to the *** siren I am hiding behind text messages! lol... Guess it takes time to build up a ***ual bond with someone huh?

I have been giving out mixed messages, and once I also told him inadvertantly that once I get something that I want I get bored quite easily... [wtf??!] Since I made that clever statement he did back off, still there but not as readily available.

lol..

Just wish he wasn't so damn hot! arrgghh. nice speaking with u all btw. x

#6 (**permalink**) 14-01-09, 10:33 AM

hmmm ok heres my 2 pence worth..i think its cheatin..i think its worse in sum ways cuz its a mental thing if u have a connection wiv your partner both phyiscally and mentally then havin *** tex wiv sum 1 else that aint your partner is cheatin an i for 1 wud not do that or want it done to myself..an i think u should be ashamed of yaself for goin after sum 1 who is in a relationship..but we cant help who we are drawn to can we..but as u are older an wiser u should of had the gumption to walk away an stop it before it started..i dont say this to offend but jus bein honest wiv wot i think on the subject..im drivin by my mental connection to sum 1 so i see it as a right kick in the teath..not all men think wiv there bits ya no..i think its time for u to walk away an leave him to sort out his life wiv his g/f...

#7 (**permalink**) 14-01-09, 02:14 PM

well thats told me then hasn't it? ...

- lol, ur comments are appreciated though so t.y.

#8 (**permalink**) 14-01-09, 03:53 PM

[QUOTE=foxforcefive;38413]Right sitting comfortably? lol...

Have been having some very hot text *** with a guy for quite a while - he lives with his g/f btw.

I knew the guy b4 hand , I instigated the hottest text messages known to man and he loved it & joined in. sometimes we were sending 40+ messages a day. I am a little bit older than him, but all my previous b/f's have been @ least 10 yrs older than he - lets just say I blew his mind a little as I have a very active imagination and also more experienced.

Eventually we ended up kissing full on - this continued for a few more weeks. We finally got naked with each other and couldn't perform!!! It was cut short due to me needing to be somewhere else.

We had a repeat performance the following week, less nervous but once again not up to full speed [if u know what I mean

] Also didn't last more than minutes. But was lovely nevertheless..

Since then we have had the most amazing text ***, both participating.. He wanted to come round but I declined, but it was VERY hot even though we weren't in the same room.

He tells me that him and his g/f don't do it anymore, I know he is physically attracted to me, I make him laugh as not only am I pretty am also funny and clever [not big headed!]. I know he wants to see me again, he tells me to call him - but I don't want to be the one running! Sometimes he will completely ignore my texts and other times he's bang on it..

Guys please help, what is going on? What do u make of the behaviour... x[/QUOTE]

Thats soo cheating and knowing he has a girlfriend your just as to blame as he is...