why do men not say what they want

I always treat people as I'd like them to treat me, so I always try to be honest & am very open with my feelings which usually ends up with me getting hurt, but thats another story....

Anyway I think in the case of some guys its more of a case of saying anything to get someone into bed, when they get bored or get a new interest they'll run, realise things were better with you, beg to come back, then find something else again...etc....

Too many friends I've lost coz of how they treat women, it's not right & it's not big. Had many who'd boast about how many they've had then say I need to get out coz I can count on one hand how many I've had.

[sultry]

well i think ur 10 times the man than they are so good for u...more men need to think like you! :-)

Happy birthday,

[knightwhispers]

I don't think there is anything too strange in how you explain things here. You are exactly what he wants ... but only when he wants you. He wants commitment on his terms even though he might say you are like bookends as long as you are together; the problem here is not so much about commitment than it is about being you being the one he wants to be with only *when* he want to be with you.

I think a heart-to-heart is what's needed here; at the same time, look at what you want too. If he doesn't want to give you his 100% then you both have to decide where you *both* go from here. It might be true that love runs hot and cold, but the fundamentals of being able to say you are close to someone doesn't change. What does change are the moods of the moment ... certainly not to walk away without having what it takes to tell you to your face.

Why do both men and women do this?

I think it's all part of the mating and dating game; a story of old and one that will never change. When things go badly, guys are slated as 'players' and guys slate women with words, often, much worse. And at the end of it all, everything comes down to the ammount of commitment that both are happy to live with.

IMHO; of course

Stay friends with him ,,I think he is playing with you,, when he makes up his mind of what he really wants then he will persue you. If he doesn't then he is either to young and wants his hand held in the art of wooing a girl or he is all talk and not really interested.
when He text you next time put some pressure him, see if he squirms and runs for the hills or if he gets serious.... But don't be surprised if he isn't sure ((( meh ,,,Men ))