men i need some advice!

do you think that no matter how much a guy says he loves you, if you loose value and self respect in yourself then he will too?

Caledonia
I have just noticed a few of your posts. The straight answer from my perspective is I want to love people - partner, friends family who like themselves. So yes I want you to like who you are.

However and there is a big but, once you have a relationship with someone then there will be times when you perhaps do not like yourself and you should expect your partner to support you. If this goes on for 10 years then well I would be off but over a short period then I think everyone is entitled to think baout who they are and perhaps want to be someone else- maybe go off in a different route.

I think you need some Caledonia time, indulge yourself and so not feel guilty for making time for yourself. Grab a friend and go for a days pampering at a spa, treat yourself to a bit of a makeover or go for a long walk (12miles) over a whole day - lots of info out there on good walks - and remind yourself about the world around you. I know you have been through an awful situation and the loss of a child at any age and that included unborn is heart breaking so please give yourself some you time. make some time to think about what you want from life.

as a young man who believes in old fashioned values if he keeps saying he loves you and you look in his eyes and he means it then i would say that it is true and i hope that this helps

[QUOTE=caledonia;43468]do you think that no matter how much a guy says he loves you, if you loose value and self respect in yourself then he will too?[/QUOTE]

Altho I am not a guy, I have asked my male friends this and generally speaking , they say yes. Goes the same way for them. If they loose their value and self respect, then the women in their relationship loose it for them as well. Some even loose their own self respect when the man does.

I gotta say NO in general

Keep your chin up.

All you have in this world are your ovaries and your word, don't break them for nobody.
heh...

Also, depends on what you did.
There are approximately 3 billion fresh starts.
Don't sweat it.

[badbluey]

I think you have generalised a very specific issue. As each one of us has a different opinion and it seems you want a specific answer this post or any of the others are gonna be of no help whatsoever. the only person who can answer that is the person who it is aimed at.

So go ask!!!!!

its not what a man says,,,its what he does,,that counts

the unconscious never lies......its what he does without thinking,,that tells you most