He kissed me, but says he isn't interested...

Hi, I'd just like to understand from a guys point of view why a guy would kiss me, but then tell me later that he's not romantically interested in me.

This was our 2nd date. The first was a meetup for a quick drink - that turned into 3 hours of great conversation. For our 2nd date, we walked around a street festival, ate and talked - then went to an outdoor bar for a few drinks. The conversation and connection was just as good as on the 1st date - at least it seemed so to me.

Throughout the 2nd date, in between walking around, he kissed me often. These were good kisses - nothing awkward - apart from the fact that we were in public...and I'm not a big fan of public displays of affection. He seemed to give every indication that he was enjoying kissing me. At the end of our date, he even said he'd like to continue the date somewhere more private - to which I politely declined - just saying "I should really get home". When he left, he gave me a quick kiss good bye and said he would call me.

This was Saturday night. I was busy all day on Sunday, so didn't really notice (or necessarily even expect) to hear from him. By Monday night when he hadn't emailed or called, I decided to send a short light hearted email to him expressing that I had enjoyed our date and hoped we could get together again soon. He sent a very nice email back to me that ended with, "while I think you are great, I don't feel a romantic attraction to you."

I have no hard feelings - I think he was a nice guy and I enjoyed my time with him. I'm just confused - why would he kiss me if he wasn't interested in me? Any insight from a guys point of view on this is most welcome!

Well... I'm not a bloke, but it sounds obvious that he was after s ex and when you made it clear u weren't interested/ready, he decided to move on and find someone easier.

[sultry]

yeah he was just looking his leg over...forget him, what a d!ckhead..its men like him that give all men a bad name! your better than that, stay clear off him hun

Hey... blokes will be blokes. like th other say he justed wanted to get his leg over...

Most blokes just kiss female and dont think much of it

i have to agree..sounds like he was only after one thing....

[sukisue]

yep hes after a **** so forget it an move on

seems simple to me. He gave off all the correct vibes and when he couldnt get what he wanted... he was gone. Another male leading the good impressions and perceprions women have of us

[QUOTE=woodsc1;59672]seems simple to me. He gave off all the correct vibes and when he couldnt get what he wanted... he was gone. Another male leading the good impressions and perceprions women have of us[/QUOTE]

lol....

[roobaby]

It's called 'life'! Suck it up and chalk it down to experience. Next time it happens be blunt, ask: "Do you like me or do you just want a quickie behind the bikesheds?" At least you won't torture yourself trying to figure out what his/her intentions are.

Not every bloke is a romantic?

Sounds like you two might not really be on the same level but with a ratio of 1.01 males per female in the world I wouldn't worry about it ;D if you two don't have common ground and common understanding just move on and try again.