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10-01-11, 11:30 AM
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Im pregnant and hes left :(??
I was engaged to be married this month and really happy in a relationship with a lovely man. We both said we wanted a child together and were both happy when we found out i was expecting.
The first month into the pregnancy was a bit of a strain. I felt sick and tired and started not doing as much around the house and was kinda snappy. He called me up and said he couldnt have a child with me because our relationship wasnt go so well at the time (stress of pressures) He then met with me and said he wanted to try and work through things. The day after saying he wanted to work through things he had an argument with my best friend who was upsert with him for putting me in the position. After the argument with my friend he called again and said he couldnt do it. I had a breakdown through fear of being left on my own pregnant...I already had two kids from a previous re;lationship and was worried about coping. I left him to think about things over christmas and after christmas we met up. He said he didnt want to go back into the relationship through fear it would end up in more hurt or go wrong again. He said he wanted to try and be friends i.e meet up every now and then and talk about the baby etc... I stupidly told him that it should be fine to date other people then ( hormones , hurt, fear etc). He then got angry with me and said everytime he thinks about maybe getting back with me i say or do something like that which makes him think hes made the right decision! He now says he cant be friends and to give him time to get over me as it is going to take him a bit longer to get over me.... he said this after I agreed to being friends with hjim... I cant understand whats going on here  Hes ignoring me now. What do I do to better this situation? and why has he bahaved this way? any advice id really appreciate thankyou 
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10-01-11, 04:45 PM
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I suppose you could remind him that he isn't gonna be able to ignore you for the next 18 years while his child grows up and that his role as a father is for the rest of his life. A child isn't just for Christmas!!!!! that might sober his mind a little.
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10-01-11, 05:19 PM
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so how old is this so called man?because it takes 2 to make a baby! it sounds like this bloke is a coward and is too afraid to step up to the plate when it comes to fatherhood.
you should turn to your friends and family and the ones who love you most. the worst thing you can do is let a bloke know you need him.. trust me. best thing you can do is let this 'man' know if he wants anything to do with his child he needs to man the f**k up. and if he doesnt you can always hit him where it hurts.. CSA.
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10-01-11, 09:01 PM
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C'est le vie. Don't become spiteful, a waste of energy, and a vicious circle of negativity, hurt and stress. You are already a mother so you need to be a role model to the children you arleady have as well as the new arrival. Show the world (and him) that you are able to cope with anything thrown at you. Of course it won't be easy. Hopefully you will get support from your friends and family, and if so, you are already luckier than some. And even if there isn't that sort of support, there are loads of organisations which can give you back your confidence and self belief. Don't be manipulated by the situation, take control of the situation. Frankly, the guy isn't worth the head space. Focus your energies on yourself, your children and start building a future. You are a woman, let's hear you roar!
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