Death

i never know what to say to someone when a family member passed away exspecially someone close. u always feel that u shud not bother them in their grief but know also that u need to let them know that u do care. well barbara my thoughts is with u|
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Sweetpea

i found it worse when peeps said nothin or crossed the road 2 avoid me ...just a few words is nice

[shazzababie]

tbh when my mum died last year i didnt want to talk to any1 except Billy and my brother Mark ... I made them field fonecalls and visitors for me cos i couldn't speak to any1 without crying and making them feel bad for making me that way... I couldnt even face getting cards and flowers that people were sending me as it just made me have to face up to the fact of what had happened... I had a house like a flowershop at one point !! ... I know people were being kind but every1 handles grief differently and i handled it very badly... Even now almost a year and a half on I get so upset if i meet someone that new my mum and they mention her and the awful thing that happened to her at the hands of that evil person comes flooding back I still bawl my eyes out ...

Its a hard thing to deal with someone who has lost someone ... i think you have to judge it very carefully and try and put yourself in their position... I was lucky i had 2 people looking out for me to spare me more upset..

I really dunno if that answers ur question tho hun I'm sorry xxx I'm away to cry now xx

If someone im close to looses a loved one . . i try and talk about it to them. I like to try and give comforting words,i dont like to just leave the subject. If they turn round and tell me they dont wanna talk about it,fair enough. I shut up. But i like to start the conversation as i believe more often than not they do want to talk about it,they just dont wanna start the conversation.

[pete8242]

youve got to remember that the one constant in life
is death
he comes to us all

[sultry]

most of us have lost someone close to us and to be honest there is nothing u can say to make the situation better....just be there for the person who has had the lose...

the funeral is today, i don't like going to funerals but this one i will need to attend, it always remind me of my daughter.
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Sweetpea

[SIZE="2"]It is hard to know what to say to people, when my dad died I found talking about him helped me get through it. [/SIZE]

[jazzy]

yeah talking about them helps but the only way for the pain to lessen (i find anyhows) is time, my dad died 8 years ago and it does taking some getting used to xx

yep jazzy ur right time does help my friend best mate died in a car crash and i was devestated cos i only saw her the day before the accident. but as time goes on the anger and then pain seem to go down a bit all that i have now in me head is the good memories of her and i still am sad but not as sad as i was at the time.