Ok i need a moan.

[COLOR="Blue"]Feel free to give me ur feed back cause i know i see the world in a way that no one else dose and am quite a selfish person so all feedback is welcome.[/COLOR]
[COLOR="Green"]My dear hubby is a wonderful man BUt he don't the world like it is.
He had an ex wife and 4 kidz when i met him.. not a problem i thought, till i find out shes fricking nuts and still in love with him, i wudnt mind but they had been divorced 10 years b4 i get with him.
We were all dead happy to start with till i had our son vinnie then she turned more and more funny, she used to get him to pain her house and pull a few strings ect, i coped with that, till one time he was at work and wasn't able to do what she asked, then the hell started.
[COLOR="DarkRed"][/COLOR] His daughter who was 20 years old and 8 months preggers came round and asked me to pay 4 her 600 quid pram, she was told no we dint have the money, she went a way a little pissed off to say the least, then she kept coming round having digs at my kidz been bought school shoes ect.
Well in the end she blew up called us all names went totally mental told dave he was a **** dad ect and slagged us off all over facebook for 4 months solid.
Her mother then got involved and posted things like its her or me.. i see am not good enough 4 ya, ud sooner be with a fat bitch that wont pay 4 ur kidz rather than me.
then says its not about us.
[COLOR="Blue"]So we carried on ignoring it at a great deal ov stress,
well now its to the point were ive made dave talk to his daughter so he can see the 7 month old baby granddaughter that hes been not allowed to see till now.

Well she gets christened nxt week and he has an invite..

[COLOR="Red"]THIS IS THE PROBLEM
[COLOR="Purple"Its a joint christening with her mums 5 year old daughter(not daves), so its happy family's, am not invited nore are my kidz its just dave.. shud i ask him not to go.. ive been leaving it 4 him to make his own decision,but as his wife and the mother of his child do i have the right to ask him not to go play happy family's with his ex wife kidz and all her family?[/COLOR][/COLOR][/COLOR] [/COLOR]
[COLOR="Green"]He says he wont be any were near her the ex that is,but the pain and the hurt that been caused in our house over her and his daughter making him choose me and our child and my 2 children or his granddaughter is enough to make any one sick.And how at a kidz christening do u avoid the main people ov the day[/COLOR]

[COLOR="Purple"]But if he dont go the baby will be used as a weapon again and were back to the mass hate 4 the world to see.?
what do u think.
Do i ask him not to go cause ov the pain its causeing me?
do i say nothing and pray he comes to my way ov thinking?
Do i let him go and show them hes ****ed me off so he can play the happy family's they have pushed 4 all a long?
I dunno what to do. he just sees it about his granddaughter they way it shud be.. but its not the way it shud be..!![/COLOR]

[sukisue]

i do understand betty how you feel ive been there so my answer is this let him, bite ya tongue and hope that that is the end of it and yes it hurts to be not invited but do ya wanna go an be part of his ex family i no i wouldnt but at the end of the day it is your decision to let him go or not to go anyway hope this helps xxx

[jazzy]

Dave would be better off just going to the church for the christening , then come home
That way hes done the grandad bit , so they cant slag him off

[QUOTE=jazzy;52602]Dave would be better off just going to the church for the christening , then come home
That way hes done the grandad bit , so they cant slag him off[/QUOTE]

yes i agree. with that.. i still dont no how to say it.. we have had so much bad feeling over this, i dont wanna be the bad guy when its not my fight if u no what i mean.

[pete8242]

i say he goes to the christening
gets ratarsed
beats his old wife up (he shoulda done it ages ago anyway)
and spanks that daughter till she has big red welts on her arse

then come home for a cup of tea and some badass betty loveing

[QUOTE=pete8242;52608]i say he goes to the christening
gets ratarsed
beats his old wife up (he shoulda done it ages ago anyway)
and spanks that daughter till she has big red welts on her arse

then come home for a cup of tea and some badass betty loveing
[/QUOTE]

lol..only u.. although i agree with it i think he shud leave the bashing till the nxt day, no ex wife beating on sundays.. its a sabbath day. lol

I feel sorry 4 dave, hes torn, because ov the situation they have put him in,but when it comes to his kidz and the way they treat him, he has no spine, he lets them walk all over him. Hes a good dad but some some times good dads have to tell his grown up children to get a grip and show some respect.
Unfortunately the mother teaches her children that how u speak to men.

[sukisue]

moan moan moan moan hope ya sort it out just let him go

[pete8242]

[QUOTE=betty b;52634]I feel sorry 4 dave, hes torn, because ov the situation they have put him in,but when it comes to his kidz and the way they treat him, he has no spine, he lets them walk all over him. Hes a good dad but some some times good dads have to tell his grown up children to get a grip and show some respect.
Unfortunately the mother teaches her children that how u speak to men.[/QUOTE]

i can see on one side he doesnt want to let his kids down
but in a way
theyre letting him down
i can understand the ex being a cow for loseing him
as hes a good bloke (too good for her)
but the kids should make their mind up on their own theyre old enough now
and perhaps he needs to push his side of the story onto them

the mum dictates to them and daver tries to reason.......
i suggest he takes a leaf out his exes book and gives it to them straight without the niceties

you cant fight fire with paper
so i suggest he pisses on it

[QUOTE=sukisue;52635]moan moan moan moan hope ya sort it out just let him go[/QUOTE]

ty sue.. dead helpful mate.