Need advice...

...my hubby of ten years had a 'flirtation' with a 16 yr old+after much heartache were trying to put this behind us, but then I found naked fotos taken recently of him+ex-wife on his computer...again we r trying to move on but things just don't feel 'right' any more...any advice please-it's been a long+rocky few months+I still love him deeply!

[QUOTE=smellydrain;33959]...my hubby of ten years had a 'flirtation' with a 16 yr old+after much heartache were trying to put this behind us, but then I found naked fotos taken recently of him+ex-wife on his computer...again we r trying to move on but things just don't feel 'right' any more...any advice please-it's been a long+rocky few months+I still love him deeply![/QUOTE] i am sorry to hear that it is not going well| commitment to change a relationship for the better has to come from both sides, u must establish how serious yr other half is to make those changes. shouting, blaming and screaming will not help even u feel like that. it is very hard for a woman to forgive transgressions like that but u will have to forgive and forget if u wanna move on but most of all don't loose faith. my thoughts are with u|
luv
Sweetpea

[queen swords]

[QUOTE=smellydrain;33959]...my hubby of ten years had a 'flirtation' with a 16 yr old+after much heartache were trying to put this behind us, but then I found naked fotos taken recently of him+ex-wife on his computer...again we r trying to move on but things just don't feel 'right' any more...any advice please-it's been a long+rocky few months+I still love him deeply![/QUOTE] leopard spots spring to mind hun, love is one thing but to make it last one must have trust, and can you honestly put your hand up and say i trust this man, its only time will tell and how much you will allow this person to keep hurting you hun. dont let it go on to long as lifes to short tc x

I have 2 aunties who had similar situations. I don't know what was the final straw but both have left their husbands and in fact both left the country. One to Australia and the other Canada - they have met new guys who seem to worship them and they are having the time of their lives now.

Only you know what is right for you but I would say don't feel trapped - you can start a again if needs be.

id have killed him by now...its ur life and u only no whats best... but he will keep doing it, its the lies that will hurt u more and u no it.. get rid, a few months hardship and lonlyness is better than a life time of miss trust and wanting to trow ur guts up every time you catch him.. its better to leave him and love him than it is to leave in hate and bitterness.

oh and 4 the record if he ever reads this.. ur a spineless twat and u need ur balls chopping off lust is easy, love is the hardest but best thing u will ever have in life. And i hope the little tart was worth it.

[pete8242]

so he had a fling with a sixteen year old
so what he keeps naked pics of his exes
so what he goes dogging when he says hes off to the pub
big deal he pays toothless heroin addicts for sordid *** sessions
hes only human

[sultry]

[QUOTE=smellydrain;33959]...my hubby of ten years had a 'flirtation' with a 16 yr old+after much heartache were trying to put this behind us, but then I found naked fotos taken recently of him+ex-wife on his computer...again we r trying to move on but things just don't feel 'right' any more...any advice please-it's been a long+rocky few months+I still love him deeply![/QUOTE]

[B][COLOR="DarkRed"]oh my god woman....get out of that one and leave him to his sordid ****.....ur obviously head over heels about him by forgivin him the firest time he fecked up but come on...u need to step out side and look in at the situation and then u would see how ridicouls it all sounds...u sound like a woman who has lost herself...he is doing nothing for ur confidence...if were u i would leave him and give myself time to get my head sorted out and get some balls back...i bet ur not the woman u were when u met him..ur relationship in my opinion is really unhealthy..sorry if my opinon is a bit harsh but u did ask for advice...well mine is to RUN LIKE FECK!!! x[/COLOR][/B]

[shazzababie]

if u cant trust him anymore then u never will again.... he had his chance after the first time he ****ed u about then he has done it again ... i know what i would do...

Once is a mistake ...twice is a fooking liberty and a pisstake !!

[pete8242]

[QUOTE=sultry;34140][B][COLOR="DarkRed"]oh my god woman....get out of that one and leave him to his sordid ****.....ur obviously head over heels about him by forgivin him the firest time he fecked up but come on...u need to step out side and look in at the situation and then u would see how ridicouls it all sounds...u sound like a woman who has lost herself...he is doing nothing for ur confidence...if were u i would leave him and give myself time to get my head sorted out and get some balls back...i bet ur not the woman u were when u met him..ur relationship in my opinion is really unhealthy..sorry if my opinon is a bit harsh but u did ask for advice...well mine is to RUN LIKE FECK!!! x[/COLOR][/B][/QUOTE]

oh piss

mental note

no cheating on sultry with 16 year olds

[sultry]

[QUOTE=pete8242;34206]oh piss

mental note

no cheating on sultry with 16 year olds
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lol pete...life is to short to be unhappy in a relationship....my moto is IF IN DOUBT... GET OUT!!!