Confidence booster?

[FONT="Times New Roman"]Hi,

Does anyone out there have any suggestions as to how to go about regaining my self-confidence, esteem and how to boost my morale after my husband had an affair with a much younger woman and maybe his ex-wife?

Unfortunately, my finances won't stretch to a face-lift, extensive plastic surgery and gastric band surgery, so I'm looking for a cheaper and quicker solution as currently, my confidence stands at about zero! It's more my state of mind that needs the working on I think!! Any suggestions would be much appreciated.

Im sorry to hear of your probs hun, I went through similar ones a few years ago when my hubby had an affair and got the girl pregnant ...I went through all the ....whats wrong with me ....am I too old now...am I not as pretty......am I overweight .....maybe if i did this or mabye if I did that .....but no!!!!! you dont need to change anything about yourself at all!! He is the one who has done wrong not you
Time is a great healer as they say ...you might feel like crap now , but trust me things will get better in time, and you will come out the other side a much stronger person,
Hold your head high .....He will soon realise what he has lost ...and when he comes grovelling back you will be strong enough to tell him where to go !!!tc

Take a friend to a spinning class or step areobics and meet new friends through that. Exercise is really good for you and you meet new people - both things are positive.

Maybe talk to a professional too - like a councilor? These people can help you through these times.

Depending on your religious views as well; going back to church can help you through it. One of my cousins was killed in a motorbike accident and my aunt was in an awful way. I'm not religious but I won't deny the amazing power of love and hope that it gives those who attend.

I'm only young/naive and couldn't possibly know how you're feeling and if my suggestions seem daft or inappropriate - please take it as intention of good will.

Take care and you've always the nice folk of woc to talk with

xx

[shazzababie]

dont change anything just learn to love yourself and then its the creeps loss !!!

go out have fun get laid then feel guilty but have a sneaky wee smile on ur face when u think about it cos u know it will secretly piss him off !!!

then get ur ass in here and tell us about it

[shazzababie]

[QUOTE=donnauk00;35100]I get lack of confidence with my looks[/QUOTE]

listen Donna hun.... looks aint the be all and end all of people. Trust me I aint exactly blessed in that dept and if i am really honest I am extremely shy until I get to know folk... I put on a front and act gutsy and ballsy when i meet ppl just to hide it when inside i am cringing like hell...

I never judge people on their looks and anybody who does should be ashamed of themselves .. so stop putting urself down and get ur warpaint on, get ur gladrags out the cupboard , get ur ass into gear and get out and have fun !!!

1. divorce him.
2. get rid of everything he gave you. emotional baggage.
3. hire a babysitter (assuming you have kids).
4. put your "freak'em dress" on.
5. find a better guy. take your time. shop as if you were buying a car: wisely.
6. invite ex-hubby to your wedding. success is the best revenge.

if all else fails, come see me. i'll help you get your confidence back.

good luck!

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Never have a battle of wits with an unarmed person.

hi hun sorry to hear about ur troubles but i have to agree with shazza,put on a act of being confident then after a while it becomes second nature,always look people in the eye when u talk to them,and just as a practise when u next pop to ur local shop,walk down the street and smile at the people u pass,a smile goes along way and when they smile back that is a boost in itself,confidence in a person is a very attractive attribute,looks are not that important as we are all different shapes and sizes,and people are attracted to different types,u don't have to be a size zero to be beatiful.i hope this helps,and good luck.