Feeling lonely...

Hi,

Hope this is the right forum to post this. Sorta nervous about posting this but here goes...

For the past 3 or 4 weeks I've been feeling very lonely and quite down. I was recently made redundant from my job, which I had for about a year, and with it I feel like I've lost the only friends I have. I'm a very quiet and sometimes shy person - I look and sound kinda young for a 26 year old guy which sorta makes me a bit self concious when meeting and talking to new people, and as such I don't really have any other friends apart from work colleagues. I also don't have a girlfriend.

I'm still keeping in touch with the guys from work on Facebook (only have 12 friends on there lol), but it still feels like I've lost a big part of my life you know. We all live pretty far away from each other. Now I keep thinking I'll never really have any friends, and I'll never get a girlfiend - and its really getting me down.

I've been applying for lots of jobs lately, unfortunately its sorta a bad time of year what with Christmas and everything coming up. But I'm hoping to hear something in January and have an opportunity to find some more work mates. I don't really know what else to do right now, I want to join some clubs and the gym (could do with losing a little weight) but I'm not the sort of person to throw myself at things like that... guess I just have to force myself to go out into the world more lol. It's sorta why I joined this site too... would love to make some friends. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be so self pitying, just feeling that way right now - I'm usually quite an upbeat person lol.

Anyways, sorry if I shouldn't have posted this here. I just needed somewhere to vent I guess, and seeing as I don't think anyone knows me here (I hope) I thought it'd be a good place because then people can't laugh and point at me on the streets where I live lol.

awww of course it's ok to post this here digi... sorry to hear you're feeling so down at the moment - my best mate has recently been made redundant too and is going through a tough time trying to keep his spirits up and feel hopeful about the future. Regarding getting a girlfriend, you're only 26 - that's soooo young (compared to me anyway lol), so don't stress about it... you have plenty of time to find Mrs Right! Get yourself out of the house, meet new people and you never know where you might find a friend - joining a gym and losing some weight will be a huge confidence booster for you... i've done it myself, although it took a while to find a gym that wasn't filled with 'supermodel' types looking down their noses at me lol

Keep your chin up... try to think positive about finding a new job and be proactive - life won't come and find you if you sit on your sofa feeling sorry for yourself unfortunately lol

Good luck with the job hunting

Hi digi, sorry to here about your present cir***stances, theres always someone to chat to on here, they all make you welcome.

Good luck for 2009 and keep smiling, theres a lot of fun to be had.

Hey Digi ...You have just posted about how I was feeling this time las year, I was really down in the dumps ....No Job, No friends (well I felt like I had no friends)
And in a few months my whole life changed I landed a new job and a new fella (through work) and if i can do it in my late 40's then you certainly can in your 20's
Good Luck with the job hunting , Im sure something will come along

Thanks guys, it means a lot knowing I could tell someone that. Thanks for the words of encouragement Still sorta feeling a bit unhappy this afternoon, but I'm gonna go find something fun to do now - should hopefully take my mind off things and cheer me up a bit Thanks again!

[snowflake33]

awww digi.... heres a huge hug just for you,

try and keep smiling... alot of people feel that way at this time of year... your not on ur own !! but lost of lovely ppl here for u to talk too !

hi digi nothing wrong to let other ppl know that u are lonely, make an effort to chat and meet new ppl even if is just online. i hope that u will make new friends and that the job hunting will look up| hope to chat to u soon
luv
Sweetpea

Strange init... i just wanna be left alone,

hey digi dont beat yaself up about it ,we all get ups an downs in our lives an the bad times are wot makes us the ppl we are..if we can get thru the bad times as we do then wen good times come along they really are good so jus try an think positive...not easy i know.... but its all about takin little steps till u find a way out of the tunnel..and as u av seen by the replys ppl do care even tho we all get wrapped up in our own lifes..so dont worry about it.. an dont try to hard either..ppl will like u for u an if they dont then they aint worth knowin..plus it is silly season so a lot of ppl tend to get down ..like i sed dont beat yaself up about it..good things will happen u watch..all the best to ya an keep ya smile on even if ya dont feel like it..

i know how your feeling. im a shy person who is in the middle of losing weight (very hard to not eat as much) and battle depression because of no boyfriends and lack of a social life. so i decided to start somewhere and join a couple of chatrooms. one or two are pretty good, sometimes i feel a little left out but the rooms go fast with many people in them. anywho, it gets boring and lonely and sometimes i need to chat. helps me from not eating, lol. hope everything goes better for you.