Unsure

hi,

ok so I'm new to this website but I just really am unsure about something which happened yesterday...

basically there is this guy (i'm gonna call him jonathan for now) at work that i have become really good friends with and some of my friends tease me & tell people that we're dating (but we're not). yesterday i was having lunch with my friends and jonathan's mate was there also. he started saying he smokes and i was lecturing him...suddenly he says that jonathan smokes. so i said thats not true. he said it is true and they were just smoking the day before. i suddenly realised that that might be true cos jonathan had mentioned that he went out with his mates the night before. his friend asked me how did i know this, did jonathan text me? i said no we spoke on the phone. the next thing i know he is sending him a message on blackberry to ask him about it. then my friend comes out with didn't u know that they spoke on the phone till almost midnight the day before. i didn't know what to say because it was true so i just kept telling my friend that i think he should shut up now.
i'm just afraid that jonathan's mate might have told him about that and that he might now be annoyed at me for telling my friend about how we spoke the night before...its not like it was a secret or anything but now that its out in the open it does look a bit suspicious especially as it turns out his friend didn't even know we had become such good friends.
what should i do now? normally he texts or calls me each day but today i have heard nothing from him.
thanks

[tommysize1]

tick tock
something's got to happen soon.
if your sure theres no romantic feelings between the 2 of you and your just friends then you should just call/text him about normal things(?)
dont ignore the fact his mate didnt realise the 2 of you were friendly but dont bring it up straight away in conversation either.

by the way.
theres no way i could stay on the phone for hours with ANYONE unless i was properly interested in them.
especially interested in taking their knickers off.

go on a date

I'm not sure what he feels...I mean originally he was just trying to be there for me as a friend cos the guy that I liked turned out to be a jerk. We've only known each other for about 7 weeks now but for some reason we seem to have instantly clicked.
I did text him yesterday just like normal & he did reply. But at the moment he is going through some stuff with his ex which is really stressing him out. I asked him if he's ok and he didn't reply... :-( not really sure what's going on.

[tommysize1]

invite him out somewhere.
or suggest both of you should go bowling/drinking/eating or whatever together sometime.

then you can find out.

nothing happens until somebody makes a move.

[pete8242]

im with tommy on the knickers thing.......dont wear any...save time n hassle in my opinion!!!

[deltagirl]

point out to jonathan the risks of smoking

[roobaby]

Life can be very confusing at times. Jonathan has revealed that he is going through some heavy stuff at the moment. As a friend, all you can do is tell him that you are there for him if he needs a chat, and respect his need for some space. Let him come to you in his own time. True friendship is built up over years, so time will tell.

the fact that his kept it quiet ur sooo close is probs a good thing if as u say his going thru stuff with the ex, may indicate feelings, but as roo says he may need time, and friendship is the best base u can start off on u will knw when the time is right to do anything, it should just happen naturally if its meant to be .....
and tommy i can be on the phone for hours with a guy i aint interested in :P

Thanks for the advice guys!

I'm going to be on a course with him tomorrow so only time will tell if he is annoyed at me...about the whole letting it slip that we spoke on the phone thing.

Well he's not annoyed at me cos he texted me last night & told me not to be silly, he's not annoyed but has had a lot on his mind. During the texting conversation I asked him at one point if he's ok (cos of the whole thing with his ex) and that if he ever needs someone to chat to I'm always here for him...but he didn't acknowledge it at all. He obviously doesn't want to talk about it...it's best to leave it, right?