friends with benefits

#1 (**permalink**) 30-07-11, 12:31 PM

hi all, i new to this, so i'm sure you have all heard this one before! I am separated and currently 'seeing' someone who has defined us as 'friends with benefits'. we meet about 3 times a week (we met about 3 months ago) and last weekend went away together. the problem is i've really fallen for him - do i ask for more and risk losing what i have, or keep going in the hope that he could someday feel the same? for the first time in my life, i feel totally out of my depth!

pennybel · #2 (**permalink**) 30-07-11, 05:13 PM

Hmmm! Is he married? Does he take u out or just call round yr place?? Cake n eat it springs to mind!!

#3 (**permalink**) 30-07-11, 05:36 PM

I know he's not married or with anyone - i have been to his home a few times and we go out places as well. my problem is i am no good at reading signals - sometimes i think i need a blueprint to being single again!

pennybel · #4 (**permalink**) 30-07-11, 05:49 PM

Ok lol! Well guess you just gotta go with the flow! Maybe hes been hurt b4 and scared of getting involved, hence his term of "friends with benefits" Ffs! dont know why I'm answering you! I aint got a clue! lol!

#5 (**permalink**) 30-07-11, 07:19 PM

Oh i don't know, just knowing someone has listened helps lol

roobaby · #6 (**permalink**) 31-07-11, 06:31 AM

This is an easy one! Like Penny said, just go with the flow and just enjoy the moment. Try not to think of long term futures - you'll have a better idea 8-12 months down the line.

#7 (**permalink**) 31-07-11, 08:58 AM

thanks to the 2 of you who responded - i have given myself a good talking to last night! I've decided i don't really need all these 'feelings' in my life right now and will end this 'friendship'. looking forward to happy days just being me! OMG i sound like a cheesy pop song!

pennybel · #8 (**permalink**) 31-07-11, 10:02 AM

The joy of being single is doing what you want when you want and not having to answer to anybody! Dont be too drastic just say to yourself "I'm in charge". Says she who would be stupid when those damn "feelings" raise their ugly head!!lol! Not seen you in the chat rooms! Call in ,it's good fun! Hope to see you there! xx

shazzababie · #9 (**permalink**) 31-07-11, 02:45 PM

shame ur ending it tho .... u seem to like him and the *** must be good or u wuld have gave up on him 3 months ago lol ... y end a gd thing .... like everyone says go with the flow

Wordsworth · #10 (**permalink**) 31-07-11, 03:07 PM

I think penny bella and wordsworth should become "Friends with benefits"...........Ill quit my job, move in with her and go on the dole while she can go to work......ooo delightfull.

A friend in need is a friend indeed!!!

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