how do u teach ur children right from wrong ?

Listen, discuss, explain, set a good example and let them make their own choices as much as possible rightly or wrongly. We only learn from our mistakes. When they are young explain how you feel about what they have done. A two year old may not understand "You have done something wrong" but they sure as hell understand you make me feel sad when you do that. Then cross your fingers and hope for the best.

[pete8242]

kids know right from wrong
so if they do wrong they know it

but there are other factors such as genetics
if your with someone who is predisposed to makeing bad choices
theres a massive chance that your child will too

so be carefull who you have kids with
their faults will be the childs faults too

Tell them what is right. reward them if they do the right thing.

Tell them what is wrong. Make them realize that you disapprove what they have done.

[QUOTE=snowflake33;42808]Ive not got children... but would love them...

How do u teach them right from wrong ?

do they listen when u tell them something is wrong ?[/QUOTE]

Kids are great mimics, and not just in what you say, so you usually find (and I know from my nieces and nephew) that if I have something, or do something, they often want to copy if it's interesting enough. Then you can show them how to do, for example, tying their laces, or drawing with a pen, or washing their hands, cleaning up messes.

They do understand what no means, and from an early age it's simple enough to gently encourage them physically to play with something else or take away that glass they found in the kitchen that you don't want them to break. Sure, they sometimes have tantrums, but if you get them to play with something else then it's forgotten. It's also nice to reward them or praise them when they get things right, or they are nice (say please, or thank you, or give hugs, or share things, or listen to what you tell them to do.).

When they keep doing something wrong, it's best to explain why not- even my 2 and a half year old understands things *breaking* or *sore* or *hot*, and if you can mime it (like, pretending you put your finger to a flame but then act like it's been burnt and say ouch or sore, they get the idea). Maybe that sounds silly, but it works with my little niece.

My 5 year old nephew doesn't listen most of the time, but I find that he gets told off the least- as if he's some kind of favourite with the rest of the family- so I am usually more firm when I tell him not to do something. He also does what he likes, like jumping about, hitting folk, not listening and nagging- man he nags so much!!!-so he often annoys his older sister- which gets her in trouble for arguing with him about it, and he doesn't share with my little niece- and also likes to try and take things off her too. She is expected by the rest of the family to already know how to share, even tho she's an only child. I fear that he'll never get the sort of discipline the girls will get, and will be a spoilt brat.

p.s. no I'm not from some country that hugely favours men over women(at least, not as much as say Asian countries). I'm from Scotland, fyi.

When he's older, I might teach him how to hover, use the washing machine, fill up the dishwasher, and cook.

[tommysize1]

id give him a smacked arse.
or take away his toys or something

[knightwhispers]

[QUOTE=snowflake33;42808]Ive not got children... but would love them... How do u teach them right from wrong ? Do they listen when u tell them something is wrong ?[/QUOTE]


Teaching your children right from wrong is called: "Teaching your children." (I'm sorry if that sounds flippant, but that it is what it is ... it's teaching with no pretence to be anything other than this. Being a good role-model on which your children can look upon and being a person they want to aspire to would be your goal; sadly, not a parents can say this and so it can be said 'they are what they are'. As babies, the responsibilities lie on you, as a parent, to teach your child right from wrong and it is this that leads their way into parent-hood; but do remember that some of which your child would learn would be outside your control. Children discuss all manner of 'stuff' in the playground and when they get together at other times; parents are not privy to what their children hear or learn from other children *unless* a child ponders over things they hear would come home and ask questions about whatever it might be.

Bringing up a child to be close to you is a good foundation; there are those children fortunate enough to go into their teens (and beyond) and still trust their parents enough to ask for advice; once again, this is not always the case, but it is these children who benefit the most.

Good parenting is a huge subject and it is equally subjective. Ultimately a child grows up and becomes his own person. In an ideal world, what we would like to think we do (as parents) is give them a good start in showing them right from wrong, showing them they can come to us when they aren't sure of something and believing they trust us when we offer advice; however, the world isn't such an ideal place. Still ... It's what we teach them and show them in what is right and wrong in their early years that (at least) sets a good foundation. From then on we leave them in our trust and in the hope that they know right from wrong. Whether we can prevent them from doing the wrong things in life for as long as they are prepared to listen to us is another issue and many would say that, as *****s do, they learn from the mistakes they make and it is this that will ultimately make them whom they are.

It is a very complicated question and I am sure there must be a myriad of publications on the subject by those professing to know the answers; I don't suggest I do, but those are my thoughts on what you ask. :-)

~F~

[QUOTE=tommysize1;62776]id give him a smacked arse.
or take away his toys or something[/QUOTE]

I'd rather find a way that keeps him happy too. I've noticed that he wants to join in with the things that my little niece will be doing too, as if it makes him curious too, but it's difficult when there's the one toy. There's even been a case of 3 toys that they like, but as soon as one of them gets a particular one, the other one wants it too. You end up trying to make the other toy look interesting, then 5 mins into one of them playing with it, it gets grabbed off them by the other. Someday I'll figure out what would keep those 2 happy at the same time in the same room.

kids.

[tommysize1]

oh! thats easy! (sez the guy with no kids)
buy a two player toy like hungry hungry hippos!
pop up pirate
buckaroo

something like that?

you're a genius!

mowahaha, you'll make a good dad someday :P :P :P

You've got to lead by example and try to be a good role model, and have lots of patience.
All children are different that the problem
I have a daughter of 30 who has and still is an absolute nightmare and a disgrace (won't bore you with the details) but I have a son a few year younger who is a credit to me.
They have both been brought up the same way, you just don't know. it's not easy and there's no guarantees.