[QUOTE=shikiera;68365]I just would like to know what my rights are concerning an absent father, he left when my son was 3 months old and has never paid child support. He did come and see him a few times in the first year but now hasn't seen his son in two years and he wants to just walk back in. I have told him to start slow, start making child support payments, maybe post a few letters for our son to open and talk to him on the phone a few times a week for a couple of months to get him used to the idea. At first he agreed but he didn't do any of the things I suggested and now is demanding to see his son this weekend or he will go to court. He already went to a lawyer a few years ago when in the heat of the moment I denied him access but I wrote to his lawyer explaining it was a heat of the moment thing and he could have supervised visits. The father actually dropped it and never went through with the visits at all and even got his sons birth date wrong! I don't know what to do or what my rights are, I do want the father in his life but does he have a right to demand to see the child whenever he wants? I have explained why I wanted to take things slow and start with phone calls I don't just want to give in to him because I don't want to upset our son but I don't want to fight him either. Once I let him in what will stop him walking away again??[/QUOTE]
It took me 13 years to fight for csa for my two children, hes not seen his two kidz for 3 years now and even then it was once every 5 months for a week holiday, because he couldn't be arsed, can i say, my two are so much better off for not having him rather than having a non interested, i wish id never let there dad in after 3 years of never bothering from the day i fist fell pregnant with my 2nd child till he was near on 3.. i wonder if they had never met him he could have stayed on the peddle stool i put him on for them, rather than falling off and them feeling like hes never loved them at all.
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